I’ve been there. I have an understanding of what it’s like to leave hospital without your baby. Our physical experiences may be different – but emotionally I appreciate the similarities of wanting a baby, expecting a baby and then the reality of shattered expectations. 

• I’ve experienced loss without having living children to look after, and with living children to look after – I think this has a significant difference to the grieving process.
• I’ve experienced loss of baby boys and a baby girl. 
• I know what those beeps in NICU mean. 
• I’ve sat in the room with consultants when I’ve been given the poor clinical prognosis for my baby. 
• I’ve watched the emergency buzzer being hit in the delivery room as the crash team from NICU appear in the room.
• My baby has been born and the room has been silent. 
• I’ve watched as my baby has died in my arms.
• I’ve had those words said to me that my baby no longer has a heart beat.
• I’ve organised my baby’s funeral.
• I’ve scattered my baby’s ashes (with other children included and without).
• I’ve experienced pregnancy after loss where you constantly wonder what will happen. Will this one make it?

I can hold space for you to listen, to have shared understanding. I’m not here to ‘fix’ anything.  I’m just here to be with you in what you’re going through.

If these statements ring true to you, or someone you know, and you think I could be a positive peer support or listening ear to them in some way, then get in touch here.